For all parents, I advise: I just don't want my step-daughter to have serious issues with interpersonal relationships as she grows, because I know adults like her, and they seem to have major difficulties in their daily lives. I had to do that a few times, but I like being alone, so it didn't feel like a punishment to me. For example, instead of saying "Don't jump on the couch," try "Please sit on the furniture and put your feet on the floor. Most of us want everything quickly. Too Submitted by Martha Molz on October 14, - I think to say that we need to use physical forms of punishment in order to teach our children lessons is to seriously underestimate their intelligence.
The main thing to keep in mind is that spanking, and abuse are 2 very different things! There is a conversation before and after the spanking. If you fall into this category, you may want to consider working on how to manage your emotions so that you can teach well. I thought that spanking would be ok if done the "right" way, which to me was not doing it in anger and explaining to the child why they were getting one. However, I don't recall what the spankings were for, just the general sense of shame that came with them.
Anybody who spanks their child is either ignorant or cannot control their frustration over the child's behavior. Removing privileges such as electronics can be an effective consequence for this age group. Should I spank my child? If parents don't stick to the rules and consequences they set up, their kids aren't likely to either. Is the youth a risk not to appear in court when summoned? It was my experience that some of the most badly behaved children were hit and yelled at all the time. The other one, though spanked, still chose to misbehave.
Parents need to evaluate their own personality and parenting styles and decide for themselves. I feel a mild amount of spanking that is not intended to inflict harm but rather to caution a child is fine. Who wants to say that about ones child? D, with Joan Declaire, Now I have 7 beautiful grandchildren and I could not stand it if my children spanked those sweet little ones. Someone should call if they suspect abuse or if they believe Children Services may be able to help them in any way. The contents of this website are the opinions of Dr.